Love has the power to make us more vulnerable than we’ve ever been, and yet we risk ourselves just for a taste of it. We protect it fiercely, but it isn’t always so protective of us. Love doesn’t promise everlasting life, protection from harm, security, or pain. Instead, each day brings something new, and like a casino gambler, we have only one thought about it…that we’ll win. We expect that love will be there in the morning, starting our mornings off warm as if the sun’s first rays have gently awoken us. Those are the days when we believe we can do anything; slay a dragon, win a case, teach the world. We must always keep in perspective that love provides these feelings because we have faith and trust in someone else, and that person has the same in us, too.
Love can make us blind and not always in the good way. We tend to be so selfish with love. We want it to ourselves. We want it to be a steady stream of words, gifts, and attraction to us, but we sometimes forget to do them in return. This often leads to the darker side of this idea. While love can bring us joy and light, it can also plunge us into the deepest depths of loneliness and pain. One word or phrase from that person we cherish can reduce us to a puddle of mud. Our minds tend to keep these phrases in a folder of doubt nearly out of reach until we feel unprotected and cold. The folder opens, and the words fly to our ears. We allow these feelings to force us into decisions that no rational human being makes, but love brings us to these places, and they are scary.
No matter what, we must learn from love, its sun and its darkness. It’s a fragile idea and one that must be constantly molded, studied, safely tested, and discussed. Blacksmiths used to forge steel, and it was often heated, cooled, and heated again until perfection was reached. The hammer would smooth out the middle and sharpen the edges so it could be a weapon used for protection and in danger. So must it be with love.